I discovered the harsh truth about things/people as I grew up and witnessed my adult life. Not everyone wants for me what’s best. My task was to create my world the best it could be.

Removal of connections with family members is one of our most difficult choices in life, since we are conditioned to think it’s morally and inherently incorrect to end our relationship with “family.” The facts are, “family members” are just people and not always healthy, and if they weren’t family, they wouldn’t be part of our life because of their bad handling. Therefore, under the ideal of the family we spend several years in abusive interactions sacrificing our mental and emotional health because these individuals are our family. If we end our relationships with them, we are conditioned to think that we are “bad” and nobody likes to feel or is an inherently bad individual. Removal of connections with family members is one of our most difficult choices in life, since we are conditioned to think it’s morally and inherently incorrect to end our relationship with “family.”

I’m free today. I don’t feel irritation or resentment because I have taken away their authority to generate chaos in my life continuously. I wish them no harm, and I’m grateful for that experience in many ways, and I don’t want them in my life.

Valid reasons for ending family relations

1. If the connection is based on mental, physical, sexual, verbal or emotional abuse of any kind. You can be sure that the connection is based on manipulation, open or secretive. It’s time to love oneself to let go, because you’re in constant anxiety and don’t even know or can predict how any commitment works.
2. It’s time to end a relationship if you have a adverse contact only. The contact you have with them helps to create you feel that you have not been good enough or have not accomplished enough for them. You are not good enough.
3. When the connection causes so much stress, it affects the significant fields of your job and/or home life. It is time to let go when your feelings are completely caught up in protecting themselves and wanting to justify ourselves, and all you speak about is the chaos of your interactions with these individuals.
4. If you are obsessed with harassment about you and try to correct misinformation, and you are constantly ostracized to the point where you lose sleep, you are toxic. Gossip only provides one family member to get others on you and you’re left unprotected from the misconception that you are tossed in. Usually there’s a ring leader who brings together the soldiers to attack and because they’re united, you start to wonder whether this is actually you.
5. If the relationship concerns the other individual in its entirety and the other person can not make efforts to maintain and maintain the relationship with you. There is not a real reason. For your failure, there are one-sided relationships. You have to let go and begin concentrating on your own healing when you know that there will never be “a sufficient” location for you to achieve in this connection!
6. When and if the relationship involves only debts or money.
7. In crazy making, no-win games dominate the relationship such as silent treatment, blame games and non-win arguments that spin on you. Verbal warfare is never the place to persuade them and this form of verbal interaction is their way or the way. If these are the adverse impacts, it is time to stop each time you get this individual or individuals.
8. Most individuals understand when the time has come to cut connections intuitively. Sadly, for a long time before we were ever prepared to create the jump, we could have taken it well. I believe I had done it sooner or later, I couldn’t have had the same trust and confidence in my choice. It’s not all going to take a terrible time like mine, but you’ll have to follow the bow and take a leap at any stage.

As we heal and discover our value in others ‘ eyes, in our own accomplishments and self-love, we begin to understand that accepting or not accepting family members is no longer the defining characteristic of who we are. As we develop, the abuse from the past and what is current can be seen more obviously. We can see that we have no opportunity to change these individuals and also no lessons from letting them continue to abuse them. It makes them free of the natural effects of this type of therapy. So, you not only stand high in your own health and self-love if you decide to sever your ties, but you offer them the natural effects that your treatments deserve.

I felt the liberty that I always wanted to feel when I cuts my ties and I felt a certain solitude, but I acknowledged lastly that they could never loving me and sustain me in the way they deserved me and that I was tired of getting tired and “lovable” in their eyes. I don’t need to have their permission to put myself, intent and relationships in much healthier terms.